Do you ever just get run down or tired of the chaos and requirements of the day? It can easily get exhausting or depressing, but sometimes when we change a simple word or two the meaning can completely change. For example, changing "got to" to "get to" changes not only the meaning but the attitude.
I have to take Jackson to therapy today. Doesn't that sound like a chore? It may even feel like a chore, but the reality is that Jackson’s therapy is extremely important. But, what if I get to take Jackson to therapy today? Doesn't that sound more like a privilege than a chore? The activity may be the same, but the mindset is different. In addition, how many times have we had therapies taken away that we know were meaningful and beneficial to Jackson? Often we don't appreciate things until they are gone.
The same activity can bring joy or dread. The emotion felt is actually by our own decision. It's hard to remember sometimes, but in the end, no one can take our happiness unless we give it away. This is not to minimize the reality of exhaustion or even the stress that naturally comes with an autistic family life. However determining how these elements impact our feelings and emotions, in the end, is by our own choice. Personally, I found that changing a few simple words can make a dramatic impact on my attitude. One thing that is important for me to always remember is that my attitude and behaviors are always being observed by our little man. I not only want him to witness my positivity but hopefully find it to be contagious.
Husband, father, coffee connoisseur and lover of all things hockey. At 51 I sometimes wonder have I done enough. I have been married to my best friend for 30 years. She knows all my faults and loves me anyway, As a father of “almost always” perfect boys, I am always surprised at what life has to offer. It is messy, scary, thrilling, and always fun.