Everyone has heard the term “a bad hair day.” Even if not truly a bad hair day, hair can often be a topic of conversations. Ladies often solicit feedback or recommendations from their girlfriends and co-workers about their hair. Such conversations can last for hours depending on the true depth of the topic – coloring, length, weave, extensions, cut, perms, etc…….you know what I mean.
These conversations are exceptionally important for most women. As a result, typically the best recommendations also come from women. When husbands are engaged to participate in hair conversations, their true focus is identifying a way to escape the conversation. Let’s be honest….even though the wife solicits the husband’s feedback, the wife does not value their husband’s opinions/recommendations. It is not that the wife is being rude but the fact that the husband’s recommendations on the topic of hair are typically horrible.
I have been married for almost 25 years. During this time we have met hundreds of married couples. Throughout thousands of conversations among the husbands, I cannot recall a single conversation in which one husband was asking another his opinion on his hair. Quite frankly, this is a topic most men avoid simply because most of us are doing everything possible to save our hair and are a bit superstitious about discussing the topic.
What women do not realize is that hair conversations with a man of thirty-something and beyond can be viewed as rather insensitive. While the average woman may be complaining about her beautiful hair, the man’s forehead is claiming eminent domain over his hairline. If he is fortunate to maintain a strong hairline, he will probably fall victim to what appears to be similar to the mysterious crop circle (which slowly begins to appear near the back portion of his head).
To add insult to injury, the body has some warped sense of balance when it comes to hair on men. As the hair begins to evaporate from a man’s head, the body begins to generate hair elsewhere on his body. But not all hair is appreciated equally. The hair growth in the ears or the extension of the eyebrows is not a good tradeoff. Ironically, as a man begins losing the hair on his head, his personal grooming habits become increasingly critical.
Ladies……the next time you think about asking your husband his opinion on your hair, pause and do an overview of his hair situation. If he is losing the battle, be sympathetic and do not engage. If the battle has not yet begun, ask away but do not judge him on his ridiculous recommendation. With that said if he has already lost the battle but refuses to admit defeat; show some tough love and cut off the comb-over while he sleeps.
Husband, father, coffee connoisseur and lover of all things hockey. At 51 I sometimes wonder have I done enough. I have been married to my best friend for 30 years. She knows all my faults and loves me anyway, As a father of “almost always” perfect boys, I am always surprised at what life has to offer. It is messy, scary, thrilling, and always fun.