Windshield vs. Rearview Mirror:
Have you ever heard the analogy of the windshield vs. the mirror? It is very appropriate for us as parents of an Autistic Child. We often focus so much on our child’s deficiencies or what he has not been able to accomplish that we often lose sight of the now or future. We tend always to be looking in the rearview mirror opposed to the opportunity that lies ahead. Think about it for a moment. How big is the windshield versus the size of the mirror? Why is that? The mirror is what is behind us. The past should not be ignored, but it is small in comparison to what lies ahead. It’s important to realize that just because he/she has not been able to accomplish something in the past does not mean that he/she won’t be able to perform it in the future. By focusing on a negative past, we may be preventing a positive future. The size of the windshield is easily 100 to 200 times larger than the size of the rearview mirror. Look at the full spectrum through that large windshield. There is so much excitement and opportunity yet to be had. We need to be putting our attention in the right direction.
It is hard not to look at those around you a wish for the life you see your friend’s children having on Facebook and Instagram. If you take a moment and remember all the accomplishments large and small, you will recognize there are only more to come. It is just a matter of time. Life is a tough one. But forgetting all the great things make it tougher.
Husband, father, coffee connoisseur and lover of all things hockey. At 51 I sometimes wonder have I done enough. I have been married to my best friend for 30 years. She knows all my faults and loves me anyway, As a father of “almost always” perfect boys, I am always surprised at what life has to offer. It is messy, scary, thrilling, and always fun.